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One hundred push-ups

Posted in Exercise, Self-improvement on February 19, 2010 by Fax

I’m doing it, as of yesterday. After a break from the gym that is already way longer than I planned, I found this and… had to do it!

I did the initial test last night (doin push-ups to failure, counting how many), and was happily surprised: 19! And I’m pretty sure I would have made it to 21 if it weren’t for the unstable base I was using (my wrists hurt if I lay my palm on the floor, so I do them with closed fists; it is therefore a good idea to put some kind of cloth between them and the floor, but I had the not-so-great idea of using a couple of small pillows, which kept sliding inwards, hurting my form).

So in six weeks from now, I should be able to perform 100 push-ups in one set. Kick ass!


Whoa, it’s that time of the year already?!

Posted in News, Self-improvement on January 7, 2010 by Fax

Hah! Happy New Year!

Alright, real quick: nope, I’m not 15kg heavier, but I am 7kg heavier :) Considering I only started taking it seriously (read going to the gym and following a nutrition plan) in September, it’s not reeeeeeeeeally an epic failure ;)

The rest of the stuff I listed as resolutions… baaaaaaaaaah, forget all that, I did a ton of cooler things ;) No, seriously, I did!

Resolutions for 2010? Um… Carpeing the diem more than ever ;)

Yup, I’m feeling fantastic! And so should you :)

On Enemies

Posted in Self-improvement on September 29, 2009 by Fax

Old me is almost gone.

Change started roughly 3 years ago, and though I intend to keep changing with every breath the parts of me that I didn’t like are almost all taken care of. It’s been one hell of a roller-coaster, guys, the process has been amazing.

What didn’t I like? Mostly the fact that I wasn’t getting dirty enough. In every sense you can imagine.

Life is short, play in the rain.

Most of the changing process has been intended, but it is still funny that I notice change, or evolution, most frequently by reflection, by outside feedback.

And while I get people liking me more the way I am now, I also get to make enemies – it is now part of the equation too. It’s only natural: I say what I mean and I do what I say, and I can’t please everyone. Among the displeased people, a few will get pretty pissed. Here is a very good way to sum it up, and it was one of the most important lessons I have learned:

No Enemies, by Claude McKay

You have no enemies, you say?
Alas, my friend, the boast is poor.
He who has mingled in the fray of duty
that the brave endure, must have made foes.
If you have none,
Small is the work that you have done.

You’ve hit no traitor on the hip.
You’ve dashed no cup from perjured lip.
You’ve never turned the wrong to right.
You’ve been a coward in the fight.

Halfway-through assessment

Posted in Career, News, Self-improvement on June 5, 2009 by Fax

Can you believe we’re already halfway-through 2009? Holy macaroni.

Time to do an assessment over my Resolutions for this year. Oh dear, just looking at them makes me go eeek… OK, here we go:

  • Gain at least 15kgs of weight: uh oh, epic failure on the horizon. I’m at the exact same point I was half a year ago;
  • Medium goal: I’ll leave this one for later :-);
  • Read at least half an hour a day: Nope, I haven’t. I’ve read more so far than in the past couple of years, that I’m sure of, but not at this pace;
  • Travel: So far so good – I did go to Berlin, and I’ve done some tripping in Portugal as well. We’ll see how the rest of the year goes, I’m not so sure I’ll be able to visit the US anymore;
  • Psychology: Hmn, I didn’t look into it any more seriously than I did before. I’m reading a really good book on body language at the moment – not that it fits into the psychology category, but my point with psychology is really to understand us better so… yeah;
  • Social circle: Right-o, I’m on it! I have to anyhow, more on that in a bit;
  • Set up a steady business in SecondLife: bah, no, I want to spend my time in there – which has become pretty short – having fun and meeting people. If a good (great) idea does come up I’ll probably elaborate on it, but I won’t be forcing something out.

That doesn’t look too good, does it? What have I done then?

Well, remember the medium goal? About taking charge, doing what I wanted to do? I did that.

I wasn’t happy with the work I was doing. I (humbly) refused an offer to keep doing what I was doing. I spoke out, I was heard, and I was offered a different kind of job. I liked it, I took it, and I love it so far!

Also, it made me move. I’m in another town now, baby, and guess what – I like it!

Also, I’m living “alone” (technically I have flatmates).

Also, it’s making me get off my ass and meet new people.

In fact, it’s time to go do just that, so I’ll just publish this without more thought. It doesn’t really need a conclusion anyhow. Later, gator!

Unnecessary stuff

Posted in Self-improvement, Travel on April 20, 2009 by Fax

Just got my tired ass back home from a weekend in Berlin. I wanted to write this real quick, it’s bugging me since I turned around from the last goodbyes to the complete wreck that was my subsequent trip back home (don’t ask):

I’m not sure if I ever wrote about not worrying much about things that are not worth it, but even if I did, the angle is different this time anyhow – most of the times when you’re doing something that induces stress in someone else, you really have no reason to be doing so, and you’d feel gutted if you knew how that may change that person’s day or week or… life.

I’m tired, so that paragraph above probably made as much sense as TV static. OK, example:

Some time ago I was driving back home from work, and some chick did some weird maneuver on a roundabout, in front of me. I honked. Right after was when I realized I was well on my way to losing all the Zen-ish attitude I’d happily acquired. Why the hell did I honk? Sure, she did something dumb, but I had plenty of time to react to her dumbness, and I did. I just had to use the damn honk though. Honking as a punishment, so that she’ll learn and not do it next time? Remember what I said about the time being now? She’s not a dog, and anyhow I bet she realized she’d done something wrong the moment she did it. The honk just stressed her up (I could see it on her face, main reason for me feeling off right after), and God knows what that drop of stress did to the rest of the stress cup. Seen the Benjamin Button movie? The part where they go through the trouble of describing the whole deal that led to Cate Blanchett being ran over by a car[*]? No, you give me a break, that is how shit happens.

Hah, you’ll probably think I’m in a bad mood, I’m not, it was a great weekend :-) Just a heads-up. Don’t do unnecessary stuff.

Keep it up!

[*] Edit: I actually got it for you, but do watch the movie if you haven’t. Here you go, the link to youtube and the transcript:

Sometimes we’re on a collision course, and we just don’t know it. Whether it’s by accident or by design, there’s not a thing we can do about it. A woman in Paris was on her way to go shopping, but she had forgotten her coat – went back to get it. When she had gotten her coat, the phone had rung, so she’d stopped to answer it; talked for a couple of minutes. While the woman was on the phone, Daisy [Cate] was rehearsing for a performance at the Paris Opera House. And while she was rehearsing, the woman, off the phone now, had gone outside to get a taxi. Now a taxi driver had dropped off a fare earlier and had stopped to get a cup of coffee. And all the while, Daisy was rehearsing. And this cab driver, who dropped off the earlier fare; who’d stopped to get the cup of coffee, had picked up the lady who was going shopping, and had missed getting an earlier cab. The taxi had to stop for a man crossing the street, who had left for work five minutes later than he normally did, because he forgot to set his alarm. While that man, late for work, was crossing the street, Daisy had finished rehearsing, and was taking a shower. And while Daisy was showering, the taxi was waiting outside a boutique for the woman to pick up a package, which hadn’t been wrapped yet, because the girl who was supposed to wrap it had broken up with her boyfriend the night before, and forgot.

When the package was wrapped, the woman, who was back in the cab, was blocked by a delivery truck, all the while Daisy was getting dressed. The delivery truck pulled away and the taxi was able to move, while Daisy, the last to be dressed, waited for one of her friends, who had broken a shoelace. While the taxi was stopped, waiting for a traffic light, Daisy and her friend came out the back of the theater. And if only one thing had happened differently: if that shoelace hadn’t broken; or that delivery truck had moved moments earlier; or that package had been wrapped and ready, because the girl hadn’t broken up with her boyfriend; or that man had set his alarm and got up five minutes earlier; or that taxi driver hadn’t stopped for a cup of coffee; or that woman had remembered her coat, and got into an earlier cab, Daisy and her friend would’ve crossed the street, and the taxi would’ve driven by. But life being what it is – a series of intersecting lives and incidents, out of anyone’s control – that taxi did not go by, and that driver was momentarily distracted, and that taxi hit Daisy, and her leg was crushed.

Take charge

Posted in Self-improvement on April 3, 2009 by Fax

Hey guys,

Remember me saying I had a new year resolution that I’d like to dedicate an entire post to? Well here we go:

It’s about doing what you want.

Those of you who know me better have definitely figured this out about me: I can’t do anything without motivation, but when I’m motivated there isn’t much stopping me.

Here’s what I found out: I do not need to do anything that doesn’t motivate me.

I can’t stress this enough: life is too short. Reconsider every sacrifice you think you are making. If it’s not being rewarding at the moment, it’s probably not worth it. For a better future, eh? Think about it. The time is now, and you are wasting it.

“Yeah, I wish I could spend my day laying on high green grass with a hat on my face and just fall asleep like that, but I’ve got to work for a living”. Not what I’m saying.

Is your work a chore? It shouldn’t be. It does not need to be, and you are in control. That’s about 8 hours, one third of your day, every day, every year of your life. Another third you spend asleep. Do you really just want to enjoy one third of your life? No. You better make your work rewarding then. What would you rather be doing for a living? OK, fair, that sounds cool actually :-). So, what’s stopping you?

Look, I know it’s not easy. But nothing is, and it does become a lot easier the moment you set your mind to it.

Don’t be afraid to say No. This goes back to my Christmas message – be willing to give away what you have. You don’t need it. If it’s stopping you from living your life to the fullest, you don’t want it.

Find what is the thing or things that you most enjoy doing. Focus on using your best skills the most and avoiding what you’re not so good at – you are just not tailored to do it, don’t force it. It’s better for you and everyone around you.

The time is now. Not one day in the future when things will be better. You do not need to toil.


Posted in Second Life, Self-improvement on February 13, 2009 by Fax

@ the stalkers out there:

Hello :-) Thanks for the peak in pageviews you gave me on the 11th, now the normal people out there have a new score to beat: 53 pageviews in one day!

@ the normal people out there:

Hey guys :-) Sorry about that above, but don’t worry. Long time no post, but stay tuned as usual! So that this post isn’t completely superfluous, here’s something I’d like you to think about for a minute:

Can you think of anyone that you could have given any sort of motive to hold a grudge against you? Anyone, to whom you may have done anything bad? If so, genuinely apologize, now. Otherwise it’ll come back to bite you in the ass. After that, or if you couldn’t think of anyone, welcome to the club :-) and you know just as well as I do that you shouldn’t worry about a thing in this world. There will be haters, but just love them the same way.

Life is too goddamn short :-) Have fun!